Day 2/30 → Since June is the Pride Month, I somehow feel inclined to talk about the issues about and around the LGBT community — especially now that one of our local (sort of international) celebrities came out as a transgendered man (familiar with Charice, anyone?) and is being criticized and made fun of for it.
But while the need to address these problems are important, I feel like it’s all just too much and I have so much to say and I can’t be coherent because again: too fucking much.
The Filipino society and culture is so fond of labels and stereotyping based on those labels. Trust me, I’ve experienced it first-hand and almost on a daily basis. I refer to myself as a lesbian and most people in this country are not used to seeing a very feminine “straight” lesbian (and by that I mean a lesbian who was never “converted” and one that has always been attracted to other women, never men).
People like putting me in a bubble. They refer to me as a tomboy (by definition of that word, I am not) even when I’m very clearly feminine. They call me a dude or tell me that I’m not really a girl and that I’m basically a guy who just happens to have a vagina and prefers ‘women’s’ clothes.
It’s so stupid that I can’t be referred to as a woman just because I’ve always been attracted to girls. These people feel like only straight men or butch lesbians are the only ones with the right to be solely into women.
I brush off the constant nagging of guy acquaintances offensively pushing me to “give men a shot” (or more specifically, have sex with them) because apparently, since I’m feminine, I can still be converted to being straight (do I really have to wear guy clothes and cut my hair short for these people to understand what my preferred gender is?). I brush off the people who constantly see me as a guy and refer to me as a guy and talk to me as if I’m a guy — as if objectifying women around me and catcalling them is totally okay. But these people do it without any respect for my regard because in their eyes, “I’m not a woman” and that since I like women too, it’s okay for them to act like complete assholes towards other women, albeit behind these women’s backs.
Correcting these people has become tedious. And I just do not and cannot deal with the idiocy of it all. So I just let it be and I let it slide because teaching them isn’t working (I tried, numerous times) and I don’t wish to stress myself over and over.
Happy Pride Month, everyone. Spread rainbows for me, would you?
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